A lot of people have been asking me how life has been since our wedding, and I actually get a little embarrassed at answering, as my reply is always 'life is just the same'. Is it meant to be like that? Who knows! I just know nothing has changed between Robin and I. We're still the couple we used to be and I think that's ok.
When answering the question and explaining that life has just gone back to how it used to be, sometimes I don't get a reply, however other times people have said that's how it should be. It's nice to get a little reassurance! I guess everyone is different though. I only have one friend who has been married for a while now and she actually said she felt her husband had changed. Not in a bad way, just gained confidence and felt proud, which I think is really sweet.
Robin and I have been together for nearly ten years now, so we're very settled and comfortable with each other, so maybe that's why we feel like getting married didn't change anything? We were definitely on a high and getting excited in the lead up to the wedding and were still this way into the honeymoon. However when we got home, our lives went back to normal. It was pretty bad timing to be honest as Robin actually moved to London for two weeks for work and we hardly spoke as he worked long hours. So it ended up just being me and the dogs after the wedding. It was weird. Going from getting married and being over the moon to being apart and not talking. It definitely got us back into daily and working life.
Robin was back working, I was filming and editing and that was that. It's quite sad really when you think about it. I don't know how you keep that 'getting married' feeling. I think by the sounds of it everyone goes through this though. It's hard to keep that wedding day excitement when it's over so quickly and you have to start thinking about boring things like paying your house bills, food shopping and working.
One thing I do love to do though is to look back through our wedding photos and watch our trailer of the day. It lifts me up and reminds me of that 'getting married' feeling again. I love that photos can do that to you.
Another thing that's weird about married life is the name change. I haven't quite got to grips with it yet. I think it's because on absolutely every document I have, ID and websites that I'm signed up to my surname is Richardson. I keep forgetting that I'm a Stanford now! It's going to take a while to get used to but once all my documents have been signed over to the new surname, it'll feel a little more legit!
I definitely think if we had moved into a new house straight after the wedding and our lifestyle changed, we would feel like getting married had an affect on us. But we came back to the same house which frustrates us both because it's too small and I came straight back into the stress of working in it. But hey, I've got a new project now! Sorting out moving house! Finally!
But honestly though, you know what. I think it's absolutely ok that nothing has changed for us. We still love each other just as much, we get on exactly the same as we did before we put rings on it and so I guess it means we were just meant to be.
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